What’s the Deal with “Do Not Play” Lists? (And Why You Need One)
Wedding DJ playing music while guests enjoy a packed dance floor.
At Infinity Play Entertainment, we’re all about creating the perfect soundtrack for your celebration… but just as important as what you do want to hear is what you definitely don’t.
That’s where the “Do Not Play” list comes in.
You may have heard DJs or planners mention it in passing, but we’re here to tell you: it’s not just a fun extra… it’s a crucial tool for making sure your event feels uniquely you (and avoids some awkward dance floor moments along the way).
Let’s break down what a Do Not Play list is, why you should absolutely have one, and how to use it wisely.
What Is a “Do Not Play” List?
In short: it’s a list of songs or artists that you absolutely do not want played at your event - no exceptions, no matter who requests it.
Think of it as the musical version of a guest list. Just as you wouldn’t invite someone who makes you uncomfortable, you shouldn’t have music that kills your vibe.
Some common examples:
That one breakup song that gives you the ick
Overplayed tracks you’re just sick of hearing
Songs with lyrics or themes you’d rather avoid
Anything tied to a memory you’d rather not relive
Certain line dances (yes, we’ll get to that in a moment)
Why It Matters
Keeps the Vibe On Point
Your event has a mood. Whether it’s elegant and romantic, hype and high-energy, or a mix of both, your music should reflect it - not derail it with a jarring tune that doesn’t fit.
Protects the Moment
Weddings and milestone events are personal. The wrong song at the wrong moment can quickly shift the emotional tone. Your DJ may not know your full backstory… but a Do Not Play list helps us avoid landmines.
Prevents Unwanted Requests
You know the guest. The one who had “just one” too many cocktails and suddenly needs to hear Cotton Eye Joe. Having a clear list gives your DJ an easy out: “Sorry, that’s on the couple’s No List.”
What About Line Dances?
They’re one of the most polarizing parts of any playlist. Some couples can’t stand them, and others consider them a must-have. And here’s the thing: line dances actually work.
Here’s why:
They give guests permission to dance. People who might otherwise stay glued to their seats feel comfortable joining in when everyone’s doing the same moves.
They break the ice. Especially early in the night, a line dance can loosen up a hesitant crowd and get people out of their shell.
They’re accessible. From young kids to grandparents, almost anyone can join in - no rhythm required.
They build momentum. A well-placed line dance can kick off a packed dance floor that stays full the rest of the night.
That said, if line dances aren’t your thing, that’s completely fine. It’s your call. But don’t rule them out too quickly - sometimes the songs you think you don’t want are the ones that actually bring your guests together.
What Should Go on It?
Your Do Not Play list should be customized and not just copied from a Pinterest board or Reddit thread. Ask yourself:
What songs or genres just don’t fit our style?
Are there lyrics that could offend or confuse some guests?
Are there songs tied to past relationships or difficult memories?
Do we want to ban all line dances, or just certain ones?
Are there any artists we want to skip entirely?
Pro tip: Keep it to 10–20 songs unless you have very specific tastes. You want to guide your DJ, not restrict them completely.
How We Use Your List
At Infinity Play Entertainment, we take your Do Not Play list seriously. We use it to craft a set that reflects your style while reading the crowd in real time. It gives us clear creative boundaries to work within, and helps us deliver a dance floor that’s full of energy and true to you.
Final Thought
A great DJ doesn’t just play music. We curate an experience.
Your “Do Not Play” list is a simple but powerful way to make sure that experience feels authentic, comfortable, and unforgettable. So don’t skip it… embrace it!
Need help putting one together? We’re happy to talk through ideas and help guide you. After all, this is your party. Let’s make sure the music gets it right.
